<<mind your own f*cking business!>>
2004-04-02 - 8:18 a.m.
You know.. sometimes people need to mind their own fucking business and worry about themselves. I had someone comment negatively on something I did yesterday in regards to my child. Basically stated that i was a bad mother because of what I did. Which was something very, very minor, in my opinion. I'm not going to post what it was because its irrelevant. The point of all this is.. unless someone's child is in immediate danger, it is not really *your* place to step in and give me your opinion on my parenting skills. I just cant believe the NERVE of the girl who did this. My response to her was simply "I can parent my own children, thank you! Have a nice day!" and walked away. She couldnt have been more then 19? and certainly nothing about her screamed "i'm a mom". It really irritated the hell out of me and hurt my feelings. I have never once claimed to be "the best" mom in the world. But I will do ANYTHING for my children. Anything. I have never done them wrong. I don't beat them. They don't go unfed. They don't by any means go without. They are pretty damn spoiled if you ask me. I gave up my entire teenage life for my children. Sometimes I do regret missing out on so much.. but I wouldnt trade these girls in for the world... not even on their worst days. Point of all this being- i do right by my children. I have made some mistakes in the past, and parenting was a real learning experience with Ashia especially and eye opener for me- but I have never done them wrong. I have supported myself and lived on my own since I was 17 years old. Sure, I get occasional support from my father here and there, but the girls are always with us- I don't have family members who are willing to take them overnight very often.. maybe once every 3-4 months or so Ashia stays the night with someone, but the babies are always with us. It just bothers me to no end that this stranger can judge my situation so quickly and indicate that a.) I know nothing about parenting and b.) I'm a bad mother overall. What the fuck? I mean- I tend to mind my own business. Stay to myself. I try not to judge others. Now if I child was in serious imminent danger- HELL YES I would comment on it. Any other time- No- its none of my business. Example of serious immenent danger- A few years ago I was going grocery shopping. It was July and about 90 degress outside. I pulled into my parking spot and got out my list. I happened to glance into the car next to me as I got a cart and noticed that there was an infant all alone, sleeping, strapped in its carseat. If this had been like.. say.. a quick mart or convenience store- where it takes you at max a minute-two to get your gallon of milk- i honestly wouldn't have thought much of it. But being that this was a regular huge ass grocery store and that it generally takes quite some time to get in, get your food and check out- I was quite concerned! Who knows how long the person could be in there for, and in that type of heat. I actually tried to open the door of the car and it was locked. A man in a coca cola truck came out and said "He's been gone about 10 minutes. I've already called the police. I'll stay here and wait for them." So I went on my merry way. When I got out, his car (the car with the child in it) was gone, and a cruiser was circling the parking lot. -=------------------------------- ANYHOW. I just wish people would keep to their own business and butt out of mine. I'm perfectly capable of raising and making decisions for my own children- I don't need the general public to do it for me. This is one thing that irritates me to no end. And I'm honestly surprised that I handled that woman's comments as well as I did. Stephanie
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